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Online Dating - Second Instalment

Welcome to another exciting installation of a girl who hates dating, cannot go out because...COVID and hates being glued to her phone but also wants a life partner so she has decided to online date.



Dahlings

How are you? I'm fine thanks

Today is Thursday and there is some progress:
  1. On Sunday or Monday or something, I sent pictures to friends to vet for the dating site. They chose and I went with what I wanted. (it's pretty much the same pictures)
  2. I did extensive research. I mean hours and hours because I'm psycho maybe? I read so many reviews. So many. Also, there are so many dating sites! Did you know there is a dating site only for BBWs? Apparently that stands for Big Black Women. Didn't know either. Is that not a fetish? Needless to say I didn't sign up on that one as I suspect there will be weird pervs
  3. I eventually signed up on two dating sites. They are called Elites Singles for professionals and the other is Tinder:
  •  Elite cost me an arm and a leg and I regretted it immediately. Immediately. The calibre of men there lead me to believe it's 'entrepreneurs' looking for a South African ID. Yeah, I said it. I signed up on Tuesday & I haven't been on since Tuesday. I signed up for six months and get this...there's no return policy. Believe me I scrutinised it. If I cancel, then I lose my money. Yeah, I was dumb. But we'll see. 
  • Tinder is also charging me, just an arm thank goodness but again the vaaaaast majority are 'entrepreneurs' 
I don't trust 'entrepreneurs'. So I will keep looking. 

You may ask..Stellah, is there a time frame to this? Thanks for that brilliant question...So, I am having a war within myself because as the song said "you can't hurry love" but on the other hand, I cannot be on a dating site for years and years because that sounds like pure hell. I've committed to six months of this and then we'll recalibrate. Or I will proceed to take myself to a convent and become a nun for the rest of my life.



Am I hopeful? I'm trying to be optimistic and I'm trying really hard to be open minded. The world has changed and I must adapt. The best outcome for me would be for him to fall from the sky.

That's all for today. A new and exciting episode to come soon.

Hugs
Stellah

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